Dropping Delusions R US

"Delusions are states of mind which, when they arise within our mental continuum,
leave us disturbed, confused and unhappy.
Therefore, those states of mind which delude or afflict us
are called 'delusions' or 'afflictive emotions'."
His Holiness the Dalai Lama

In a long term relationship or marriage there are delusions or afflictive emotions.  When it gets to hidden hate \we have to stop the habit and say "not acceptable".   Dropping Delusions R US has become my meditation anyway.  Gardening has brought my husband and me together wonderfully once we both stopped thinking each other was incredibly misinformed.

When I am really teed off (thanks Dad), I use a few literary references to get me to appreciate my incredible partner.  None are about vegetable or flower Gardening but they sure help me nourish.

Apples and Brogues

The Last Prince of Ireland-Morgan Llywelyn

A couple get separated as they struggle to shore with an army behind them.   The husband can't swim so he can't save his wife who is being dragged down by her skirts in the water.  Beside himself with angst he is crying and screaming encouragement and she finally makes it.   He takes her hands and says,

"What took you so long?"*

Lisly's Story-Stephen King

Any of the subtext in the beginning between the couple while the other is speakiing, beautiful.

The Taming of the Shrew-William Shakespeare

Kate's final speech.  It's only sexist if you haven't been married to my husband.

Recently I read the only difference between couples who divorce and couples who do not is desire to stay married.

Man, that is the kind of grant someone needs to write for me!


"What took you so long?"* is my take w/o the book here.  I am sure it was far more eloquent.  The Last Prince of Ireland is a great book about Donal Cam O'Sullivan (Domhnall Cam Ó Súilleabháin Bhéara).